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“Role model for everyone keeps rolling”, my childhood days had taught me so until recently. At the age of 15 when my class teacher asked me in a class of 40 about my role model, I just squeezed my mind to name a different personality who is neither mentioned nor known to at least few in my class. I said it is “Shirin Ebadi” and it raised a few eyebrows about who she is? The teacher asked me to give a glimpse of her and I concluded with the Nobel Peace Prize which she received that time for her efforts for democracy and human rights.  I seldom understood the importance of democracy or human rights or at least the contribution of Shirin Ebadi. It is not just me who did so; most of my classmates did the same either choosing a famous personality or a person who was popular or in news recently. The classes and batches continued to change, so are the role models too. To the best of my knowledge, I had not less than 10 role models from my school till the college. It includes A P J Kalam when he was President, Dr.Sylendar Babu IPS after reading his motivation book, Che Guevara after reading a book on him, Mark Zuckerberg after watching the movie Social Network, Sourav Ganguly when he was at his best, Vladimir Lenin, Subhash C Bose, Bhaghat Singh, Major Sandeep Unnikrishnan, Hemant Karkare, Arvind Kejriwal and the list continues. It is true that these personalities had some impacts in me in my course of journey till now, but all these impacts are induced externally by someone or something and not natural. It was either the news published or the book which I read made me consider someone as role model. It was recently that I burst the myth within me and understood the fundamental that role model need not be someone from the outside and my search therein for a perfect role model has attained its final shape very recently.

 My father passed away when I was 7 and  it’s my mom who brought up me and my brother with the support of my maternal uncle. She was just 25 when we lost the bread winner of our family. She refused to marry again, instead started to work for the well-being of us. She used to tell that she was a class topper in her class 10 board examination and also represented the school in various competitions at district levels. She discontinued studies as well as her co-curricular activities as she was made to marry due to family constraints though she wished to pursue higher education. But both education and marriage life was not complete as she wished. With the meagre education (in real official certificates), she got jobs with meagre salary. She understood that people don’t see what you know, but they just see what certificate you have before offering a job. She encouraged us in all possible ways and admitted us to a private school. We had good uniforms, books, pencils etc., and in real we never understood till recently the sacrifice she made to shape the present me. All she wished was our wish to come true, irrespective of what it is. I wonder how I missed to notice a role model very near to me for all these years. We usually have Myopia when we search for a role model and it took me 25 years to cure it to find my perfect role model near me, in fact very near to me.

My preparation for Civil Services helped me to visualize something related to women empowerment and the policies followed by government to implement the same. Special reservation, exemption, fund assistance etc. are available for women who are separated from their husband. She never used any of the options in her life and she came up and made us to come up all alone without any external assistance of any kind. She never worried about the society and it makes me nervous now to think how cruel the society would have been two decades back. I have taken few policies and made few investments now to secure the future of my dependents, but she neither had any security nor did any investment and she started the ever ending marathon with infinite hurdles without any knowledge of how it will be, but with a firm mind to tackle it.

What my Mom – my role model has made me to realize?
I wouldn’t say that my mom has taught me, in fact she has never given me lecture of any kind, but all she made me is to realize from within me.

  • You don’t have to have any prior knowledge to succeed in something, you can learn on the go from your failures and can succeed for sure if you are firm on your goal.
  • Believe in you, there will be people to help you, but don’t expect.
  • Look at the positive side of life when something negative happens.
  • Do not be crest fallen, failures teaches you more than what success does.
  • Money is not the source of happiness, it is within.
In society point of view,

  • Women Empowerment must to be given top priority.
  • Respect women. Teach those who disrespect.
  • Do not speak ill of someone, you are part of the society and it is you who make the society.
  • Educate girl child.
  • Men and Women are equal, women can do everything what a men can do.
The” Me” now is made by “Mom” and I am proud to be Me. I found my role model little late but it is not an induced one, but a natural. I didn’t find any critique now as it happened before when I say my mom is my role model, not because they don’t want to hurt me but they don’t have anything to criticize in real.  Thank You Mom for all your sacrifice and shaping me as the person what I am now. Thank You Blogadda and Gillette for giving me an idea about what to gift my Mom for this mother’s day. What else will be a better gift than sharing this post with my Mom?



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